Is someone there?

Hi everyone!
I am here again :) I need to tell you something. I was sure I had found THE FAMILY. Everything was perfect: the place where they live,  open minded HP, a lovely small HK buuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuut nothing is perfect! a difficult big HK!
Ok, let me explain myself:
- They live in NYC very close to the most important places.
- He is musician(HD), they are so friendly and love doing parties at home. So they use to have friends over and the au pair is included in the parties.
- I don't have to drive, that's a good point because because I don't like it very much.
- The schudle is so good: just afternoons Monday to Friday and weekends off.
How I said everything was lovely.

Well, They contacted me. We started to speak over email and we did the first skype. I met all the family and I really felt they were the family I was looking for.
During the first called I also met their current au pair and the HM introduced me to her and she gave me her Facebook adress and telephone number.
The second step was to speak with the current au pair. She extended with them for 9 more months so It is a good signal. Well, when I spoke with her , she started to tell me a lot of bad things like:
- The mum is not really nice.
- the big HK has lots of problems and she is really difficult. She needs more attention and she can be really good but she can also be really bad sometimes.
- The mum doesn't know how to manage and She use to apologize the HK so at the end the girl doesn't learn. This behave won't change never.
- Things that the HK use to do: she say bad words to the au pair, throw things when is angry and she even escapes.

Well that's not all, the HM has been so clear and direct. She said I should know everything before I got there. So, she said this type of things about the HK:
"The HK knows how to upset the current au pair because the current au pair is a very sensitive person. The HK insults her when she's upset about something or doesn't want to do something the au pair tells her to do, the HK might make fun ofthe au pair's accent or tell her she wishes she had a different au pair or other things she knows hurt her feelings. Then things will escalate because the current au pair gets upset and usually everything gets worse before it is resolved.
I think the heart of the matter is that the HK  is a kid that needs a lot of attention and when she doesn't get the positive attention she desires she tries to get negative attention but then she ends up even more unhappy when everyone gets upset with her.  The more you give her positive attention, reinforce good behavior, compliment her accomplishments and talents, offer hugs and take an interest in what she wants to talk about, the less she will act out. The trouble is that it's hard to find time to do this as much as you'd like while also getting homework done, paying attention to the other kid as well, getting her to eat before karate or do whatever task she is trying to avoid. 
She also seems to believe that adults who are serious and authoritarian all the time are "mean" because they don't give her many opportunities to laugh, be silly or have fun. So you have to show her you are in charge, but with a smile and a joke, not a threat and an argument. Hopefully you know what I mean. "

That's just some information. So I am confused, I don't know what to do. I don't know If i will be able to manage some situations that obviously will happen.
I need to think. They want to match with me but I am not sure.

What to do you think? I know don't exist the perfect family but probably it is too much. Don't you think so?


Heeeeeelp meeee!! lol
All the best,
Mire

Hey I'm alive!

Hola chicas!!

Sigo viva :)
Llevo tiempo sin escribir porque no tengo mucho que contar, sigo hablando con familías ( ya van 8) y bueno como ya sabreis las que andeis liadas con esto, hay tres opciones:
- Familias que te encantan, te emocionas y ya te ves super feliz por los States viviendo  este añito con ellos. Y luego recibes el trágico e-mail de....I am sorry but...
- Familias que no te gustan de entrada y siguen sin gustarte mas adelante o por el contrario cambias de opinión una vez que haces skype.
- La familia perfecta, que te encanta y les encantas.

Bien pues ahí ando, buscando la ultima de las tres opciones. Si eso sucede sereis las primeras en saberlo, no sabeis que ilusión me haría escribir una entrada de: siiiiiiiiiiiiiii!!!!tengo HF!!

Y vosotras como vais? Estais encontrando complicado el proceso de match?

Muchos animos a todas! Y enhorabuena a aquellas que ya habeis encontrado HF, que os voy siguiendo por vuestros blogs y me alegro mucho!

Hasta prontooo! Xx

Hey girls!

I am still alive :)
I didn't write for a long because I haven't had anything to tell you. I am still speaking with families (8 families right now) and how all of you know during the match process you can find 3 situations:

- Families that you love. When you find them you get so excited and you start imagining you living with them (all is lovely). BUT, then you recieve the tragical e-mail: I am sorry but...
- Families that you definetly don't like. You try to know them a bit more and:
   · You change your mind.
   · You still thinking they're not the famili you are looking for.
- The last option: you find the perfect family and they also think you are the perfect au pair for them.

Well, I hope to achieve the 3rd option soon, I can't wait to write a post for all of you saying: Yeeeeeeee, I have HF!! 

How are you girls? Are you feeling the match process is pretty hard, too?
Good luck for all of you! Congrats to all who has found the perfect HF.  I read your blogs and I am so happy for you!

See you soon! XXX